This blog post is about exactly what it says: things we tolerate. And why tolerating them sucks the life out of us. Tolerations distract us, annoy and eat away at us, and steal our focus, concentration, and inspiration. They rob us of our creative spontaneous nature and our quality of life.

What are tolerations?

Let me list what tolerations look like: 

  • Messy drawers 
  • Unanswered emails
  • Procrastination of any kind
  • Long to-do lists
  • Old clothes hanging in the closet
  • Friends that do not reciprocate
  • Weeds in the garden
  • Debt
  • Neglected hair and nails
  • Fitness goals put to the side
  • Flaking paint
  • Ignored budgets
  • Impending deadlines
  • Everything that is out of place
  • And things simply left undone

These tolerations could be just about anything that makes your stomach turn, knot or drop when you see or think about it.

Slowly draining our energy and quality of life

Essentially, tolerations are like inefficiencies in our heating. If we do not identify and rectify the slow drain of our life energy, we will be depleting our precious resources.

Look around right now. Reflect now on what is important in your life that is being left to the side, ignored or unfinished.

Then, ask yourself:

  • Can you see something in your physical environment that you are tolerating? 
  • What do you fantasize about being in order?
  • What are the loose ends in your life?

Homework: The Four Foundations

Review the following areas of your life to get answers to these questions:

  • Firstly, your Physical Environment
  • Next, your Health and Emotional Balance
  • Then your Role and Relationship with Money
  • And finally, your Relationships with Friends, Family, and Community

Draw a mind map or brainstorm your thoughts about these four foundations in your life.

These are the cornerstones that create the tone and substance of your existence. What do we require to reduce the tolerations?

Roll on to the Wheel of Life

This leads us to the Wheel of Life. All the spokes of the wheel that are critical to our well-being and thriving need maintenance like our mechanical wheels. We delve deeper into the Wheel of Life theme in next week’s blog.

Values and needs for a better quality of life

There are two more concepts linking all these together: values and needs. It’s difficult to know what aspects of the Wheel of Life are missing or neglected, and what we are tolerating as a result if we are not crystal clear about what we value and need.

We will explore these in week three of “Back to life – Back to Reality” in September. Until then, identify, reduce or eliminate as many tolerations as you can! Your quality of life depends on it.

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Kathlyn McHugh RCC, RSW Counselling Practice takes place at the Vitality Clinic in the West Shore Area, close to Victoria BC.

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