Accomplishing a task, regardless of how big or small, requires the right approach and a game plan. For many of us, so many things can get in the way of finally ticking off that to-do list. Things like lacking motivation, fear, the lack of resources, or not knowing where to start. All of these reasons are valid, but also manageable. We walk through how to strategically tackle goal setting with a technique you can apply to any situation.
Inspire your goal setting with the greats
There are some incredible books on goal setting, with fitting quotes regarding habits. One of my favourites has been spun many different ways by the likes of Gandhi and Lao Tzu.
I like the metaphor of growing something. Samuel Smiles laid it out clearly by saying:
“Sow a thought, and you reap an act;
Sow an act, and you reap a habit;
Sow a habit, and you reap a character;
Sow a character, and you reap a destiny.”
Sean Covey said it even more succinctly: “We become what we repeatedly do.”
What flavour is your life?
When you ask most people, they don’t even know what they are missing out on. They are living the life laid out for them, or, fell into. There is a component missing – a lack of direction and self-determination.
Many don’t consider that they are neglecting elements of adventure, learning or desire in their lives.
Goals should be about enriching our lives with more health and fulfillment.
If your life was a flavour what would it be?
What else could you be experiencing to spice up your life?
When we say get clarity, it refers to identifying who you are (and who you are not) and where you want to be. Most people don’t expand outside their routine because they are afraid of failure, success, and change. Life is the ongoing tension between where you are and where you want to go.
To address this, you must be honest with yourself by getting real and revealing clarity.
- What are you doing/being?
- What are you NOT?
Goals are the tether line that holds you so you can move from where you are to where you want to be. Let’s face it: Everyone sucks at everything at first.
Exercise: Creating a SMART goal
Firstly, begin by setting an intention that reflects your values and your needs. Set a goal and then make it a habit. You then will become the person that is/ does that intention. Do this by creating a SMART goal.
This mnemonic acronym is composed of simple, but important, factors:
- Relevant/ Realistic
That is the work behind manifesting. You become who you want to be by following this path of creating habits that shape you into your best self.
What are you waiting for?
Septembers’ blogs have been all about examining at a deeper level, “what am I made of?”. If we become what we do, then it makes sense to be very strategic about exactly what, how and when we do. This is where SMART goals come in. I like to start with the end in mind.
I’m going to use a real-life example:
Desired outcome: “I want to become the kind of person that meditates.”
To become this envisioned person, I must determine the path or action to achieve this result.
Action: I need to start a meditation habit.
SMART goal break-down
Specific: I will listen to a guided meditation from the Calm app library.
Measurable: I will do this 5 days per week (Monday to Friday) for 10 min at 6:30 am
Achievable and Realistic: If I miss a day during the week, I will make it up on the weekend. It must consistently be 50 minutes per week.
Time-Related: I will do this for 30 days and re-assess the goal.
Exercise question: who do you want to become?
Finish the statements:
I want to become the kind of person that _____________________.
To do this, I need to: ______________________.
My goals then will consist of these elements:
Specific – _____________________
Measurable – _____________________
Achievable – _____________________
Relevant/ Realistic – _____________________
Time-related – _____________________
Putting ‘go’ in your goals
We wish you the best in discovering more about yourself and your dreams to unlock your best self through goal setting. For more insights, read our articles or contact our team of specialists for a personalised experience.
Kathlyn McHugh RCC, RSW Counselling Practice takes place at the Vitality Clinic in the West Shore Area, close to Victoria BC.
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