by mchughk@telus.net | Jul 16, 2022 | Body, Mental Health, Mind, Shame
Shame and addiction are two sides of the same coin and, connection is the antidote. Right Brain Demanding Connection Addiction is a symptom of chronic shame. This is why affective regulation is the antidote for any addictive behaviour, (including Eating...
by mchughk@telus.net | May 6, 2022 | forgiveness, Mental Health, Shame
Forgiveness. There is a lot of talk about the need to forgive. I have a belief about this. You don’t necessarily need to forgive someone who perpetrated abuse or hurt you. We need to forgive ourselves for how we have used that abuse or pain to continue to...
by mchughk@telus.net | Apr 22, 2022 | Contempt, Curiosity, Mental Health, Shame
Intentions vs. Expectations Lifeboat Analogy I was working with a couple once and we co-created a “Lifeboat” analogy for relationship. Have you experienced that moment in a relationship when all of a sudden you feel like you’re...
by mchughk@telus.net | Apr 1, 2022 | Body, Contempt, Mind, Shame
In this weeks’ blog, I wanted to discuss how contempt is the great divider and separator within and between humankind. It tears apart and separates us within, leaving us feeling anxious, sad, alone, and ashamed. It separates us from each other leaving us open...
by mchughk@telus.net | Mar 25, 2022 | Body, Mind, Shame, Spirit
Shame in Relationship with Ourselves and Eachother Shame is the underlying culprit for self-harming behaviour including cutting, disordered eating, and addiction. These are all ways to change how we feel and take control of our bodyminds. Emotional...