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Experience Open-Hearted Love with 5 steps

Experience Open-Hearted Love with 5 steps

Are you experiencing open-hearted love? Open-hearted love is simply a state of feeling open, accepting and expansive, versus sensing vulnerability or fear. Regardless of your stance, you will be empowered with this guide to change the narrative. We walk you through...

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Touch wellness and the power of friendship

Touch wellness and the power of friendship

In a continued quest to complete wellness, there are often some aspects that we realise we have overlooked. Like getting caught up in the moment, work, and life, we forget a basic essential for our humanity – like touch. Delve into the reasons why touch wellness is...

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Values and Needs

Values and Needs

A values-driven life is one that not only meets your needs but the needs of those around you. A life grounded in values that meet your needs is a life well-lived. For the exercises in this blog post, operate out of your imagination, your vision and your dreams (and...

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Wheel of Life

Wheel of Life

The Wheel of Life is a model that represents balance. It comprises of eight sections: Fun and Recreation Personal Growth Significant Other/Romance Physical Environment Career Money Health Friends and Family Each spoke of the wheel is vital to a thriving quality of...

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Tolerations

Tolerations

This blog, Tolerations, is about exactly what it says: Things we tolerate.  And why tolerating them sucks the life out of us. Tolerations distract us. Annoy and eat away at us. They steal our focus, concentration, and inspiration. They rob us of our creative...

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Living Your Best Life and BHAGs

Living Your Best Life and BHAGs

In this blog, I'll be talking about my New Year, Living my Best Life and BHAGs.   My New Year September has always been my "new year". When the season starts to change, people shift gears out of summer mode and into the more serious and goal-oriented fall....

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Place Location

Place Location

The Irish Celtic tradition honours and emphasizes the sacred value and meaning of "place location."  Places that hold the spirit of something important to a person, family or tribe.  Usually encompassing core values that are held at the centre of survival and...

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Becoming

Becoming

The difference between "Being" and "Becoming":  Becoming is not static and it is not something that you arrive at.  It is an ever unfolding and organic process without an agenda or judgement. So that, wherever you are is exactly where you are supposed to be.  Becoming...

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Stories of Nostalgia

Stories of Nostalgia

Who I Am Is How I Formed   Stranger Things (the show) ignited my raging nostalgia for the 80's and every wonderful thing those years held for me. That was the decade I became me.  Those years and everyone in it shaped and formed my core beliefs, my interests, my...

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Connection is the Antidote

Connection is the Antidote

Shame and addiction are two sides of the same coin and, connection is the antidote. Right Brain Demanding Connection Addiction is a symptom of chronic shame.  This is why affective regulation is the antidote for any addictive behaviour, (including Eating Disorders or...

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Boredom and Daydreaming

Boredom and Daydreaming

Boredom creates the imaginal space to daydream which is where manifesting begins. It is where creation starts. What do you want to create? These Moments of Boredom Opened Up Portals When I was little, I had vast periods and space to think, ponder, imagine, and vision....

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Suicidality

Suicidality

Is it human to think about Death, Dying and suicidality? What if there isn't an end to fear, anger, sadness? I'm scared to get better - who will I be without it, (depression/anxiety/suicidality)? Why do I have to get better for someone else? What do I gain from this?...

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The Many Faces of Depression

The Many Faces of Depression

Many Faces Many of us have misconceptions about what depression looks like or feels like. Let me list the ones that I can think of: The classic - not being able to get out of bed.  Sad, crying all the time, or the opposite - not caring and being empty and listless....

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Regret.

Regret.

What do you regret you DID NOT DO?  Research shows that on our death bed we are not mourning what we did, but rather what we did not do. One example of regret I come across often in my work is with couples. Never is regret more intense and impactful as in...

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ADHD and Sensitivity

ADHD and Sensitivity

In this weeks blog, I wanted to write about ADHD and sensitivities.  There's a lot of talk right now about ADHD - especially new diagnoses in adults. I've been thinking about ADHD for many years.  I've been working with people with ADHD my whole adult...

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Love, Fear and Manifestation

Love, Fear and Manifestation

This weeks' blog is about love, fear and manifestation. There has been a growing sense of fear, sadness and anger - of being trapped in whatever life you are in. Increasing polarization of the privileged and the disenfranchised.  Social disconnect, increasing...

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Grief

Grief

Around mother’s day a number of clients talked about their moms’ passing and the bittersweet season of appreciating and missing their mom. It reminded me of my Mom…

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Procrastination and Perfectionism

Procrastination and Perfectionism

How many times have you said to yourself, "I really want to do "x" but I just don't know where to start?"  Have you ever wondered if there is a RIGHT place to start? Hello, perfectionism.  What if you knew that no matter what step you took it would lead to PROGRESS?...

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The Need to Forgive

The Need to Forgive

Forgiveness.  There is a lot of talk about the need to forgive.  I have a belief about this. You don't necessarily need to forgive someone who perpetrated abuse or hurt you.  We need to forgive ourselves for how we have used that abuse or pain to continue to hurt...

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I Am My Bones

I Am My Bones

A wise person once shared this personal truth: "I am my bones." So for some reason this statement resonated deeply with me.  In my bones.  And I continue to ponder it.  It occurs to me that bones are the one part of us that last the longest.  Long enough to tell the...

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Intentions vs. Expectations

Intentions vs. Expectations

I was working with a couple once and we co-created a “Lifeboat” analogy for relationship.  Have you experienced that moment in a relationship when all of a sudden you feel like you’re drowning?  Then you see your partner seems to be (metaphorically) safely aboard a boat watching you drown.  The panic, fury, and helplessness can be overwhelming.  The sense of betrayal that they are not reaching out and pulling you back on board the boat!  How could they just watch us drown?  If you’re on the boat not drowning – you are now officially the LIFE boat for the Other.  Save them.  How do we do this?  So many ways, but let’s explore just a few.

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Choosing Me

Choosing Me

Choosing Me?  How to reclaim your life and make it yours?  Wrap your day in love and care:  book-end it for thriving.  Open and close your day with intention. Keep in mind, people who see you as an extension of themselves will not appreciate this process necessarily,...

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Diversity and Embracing Complexity

Diversity and Embracing Complexity

Complexity is a sign of credibility.  Has anything of real depth and truth been simple?  Or binary?  In fact, can it be said that all truths are wrapped in the complexity of Paradox?  My challenge to you is every time you come across a binary idea to dig into the...

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Contempt: The Great Divider

Contempt: The Great Divider

In this weeks’ blog, I wanted to discuss how contempt is the great divider and separator within and between humankind. It tears apart and separates us within (leaving us feeling anxious, sad, alone, and ashamed), and separates us from each other leaving us open to dehumanization.

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Shame

Shame

Shame in Relationship with Ourselves and Eachother   Shame is the underlying culprit for self-harming behaviour including cutting, disordered eating, and addiction.  These are all ways to change how we feel and take control of our bodyminds. Emotional...

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How Do We Love One Another?

How Do We Love One Another?

How do we love one another? When we hold another's mind in our minds this is called "mentalizing". Mentalizing it is part of the nurturing that helps infants grow into themselves as individuals: the caregiver holds them in their minds and attends to them by attuning...

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Waiting to Feel Good

Waiting to Feel Good

Are you still waiting to feel good?  While it is already March, with the Omicron wave of illness, the freedom trucker convoy, and now WAR, many of us are still wondering "when do I get to start this new year?  I had planned that this year would be a fresh start." In...

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Biorhythms and Our Mental Health

Biorhythms and Our Mental Health

I have been thinking a lot about why mental health is on the decline and the connections between biorhythms and mental health.  I would seem obvious in many ways but I always like to look deeper.  Why is it that a person can have everything they need or want but can...

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Nuggets of Truth in Parenting

Nuggets of Truth in Parenting

I was inspired to provide my Nuggets of Truth in Parenting to you. I have been thinking about parenting in the last few weeks because of this phenomenon everyone is calling "the state of the world."  I have been hearing from youth and young adults that they are...

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Collective Consciousness and the Pandemic

Collective Consciousness and the Pandemic

Before I begin about Collective Consciousness and the pandemic, I wanted to introduce myself and my blog. I have been a therapist my entire adult life; listening to people's stories and being transformed by them.  I have felt a calling to share some of my reflections...

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Managing Our Anxiety During Challenging Times

Managing Our Anxiety During Challenging Times

We are all personally affected by the COVID-19 crisis in many different ways, but anxiety is likely an emotion we have shared as individuals and as a collective community. Many of us also have responsibility for our family, friends and/or workplace to lead them...

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